Why and How You Should Stop Masturbating

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Many persons who want to stop masturbating do not know how. For most, their resolve to overcome the habit is strong until the next urge visits them.

In this post, I'll share with you the tips that worked for me.

But before that, let's see why you should overcome masturbation.

I know you came here probably seeking how, but as I've said above, your resolve may fail in the face of the desire to masturbate.

That's what happened to me for years. I told myself several times, "I must stop masturbating," but the next time my body longed for self-stimulation, I succumbed to the craving.

Knowing the why will strengthen your desire to overcome. It may not grant you complete victory, but it's a great step in the right direction because your willingness to follow the how-to tips will be stronger.

Why You Should Stop Masturbating

1. Your mental faculties are part of God's temple


Masturbation is mostly fueled by sexual fantasies. Because our mental faculties also belong to the Lord, we need to honor him by dwelling on thoughts that are pure and lovely (Philippians 4:8).

"I masturbate without sexual fantasies."

 I did. But unfortunately, you can't comfortably masturbate without the thoughts. Sooner than later, you would take refuge again in X-rated imaginations to make the orgasm bigger and better.

God made sex for a man and woman, therefore, solo sex is not only a perversion like homosexuality and bestiality, but in practice, there's nothing like solo sex – you're having sex with an imaginary partner.

Usually, someone you lust after. Or maybe you go a little more depraved and watch porn alongside your self-stimulation.

Believing that your body, including your mental faculties, belong to the Lord is one of the strongest reasons why you will stop masturbating.

2. Masturbation is Addictive

And destructive.

Like a drug addict who would do anything, including murder, to get their next fix, masturbation addiction can cause you to seek gratification in ways and places that you'd be ashamed of after your 'fix'.

 Masturbation robs you of self-control, making you act like an animal.

In my journey out of the addiction, I told myself several times that I'll limit it to the ovulation period.

Unfortunately, the truth is, when you masturbate once, the probability of falling into a compulsive attitude again is high.

Self-control gets better as you deny your flesh.

3. Masturbation breeds guilt

Even for those who believe it is not a sin.

Recently, I was surprised to find how many times the Bible talks about maintaining a good conscience.

I would rather endure the torment of my body's craving than bear the guilt that follows masturbation.

How to Stop Masturbating

These tips will work for overcoming fornication as well.

1. Ask God For Help

You can't overcome sexual sins by sheer determination. You need a power higher than your resolve. God is willing to help you live sexually pure.

2. Sing Worship

I found playing worship music very helpful.

It is impossible to be transported into the throne room and still wallow in those immoral thoughts or touch your body inappropriately. Unless you really want to gratify that flesh.

3. Read Christian literature or listen to a sermon

Reading non-Christian material may not help.

Scripture or a sermon or a good Christian book helps to replace the thoughts in your mind that are tending towards filthy thinking.

Christian material, be it music or literature, causes your sexual tension to gradually decline until you're back to 'sanity'.

4. Seek help from underlying issues

You cannot stop masturbating if the habit is fueled by underlying issues you have not dealt with.

Depression, feelings of worthlessness and inferiority, grief, brokenness etc.

The best way I overcame these mental disorders was understanding God's grace and love for me, and also pursuing my God-given purpose.

5. Have an accountability partner

This someone you trust will help you when the going gets rough.

6. Don't give up is the urge persists

You may experience this scenario: here is your unwelcome visitor, Mr. Sexual Urge.

You pray and ask God for help, the visitor goes away for a few minutes or an hour, and then returns. You play and sing worship, the visitor goes to sleep for an hour or more, but reawakens with a fierce demand to be attended to.

This is common if you have seasons of high libido, for example, during ovulation or if trying to stop masturbating after years of addiction.

It is very tempting to masturbate at this point after several attempts at resisting the urge.

Don’t give up your fight now. For if you do, you reset your gains to zero, you get discouraged, and you stand weak in the face of the next urge.

Instead of submitting to the desire, sing more worship, read more Christian literature, listen to a sermon. We said at the beginning that sexual purity is a fight. A struggle.

Resist and resist and resist, and gain more self-control over the next temptation!

It is possible to stop masturbating. Many people have done, so you can, too!

This article is adapted from the chapter on Sexual Purity from my Book, Joy-filled Christian Singleness and Dating.

Janet is a Christian with a knack for writing. While it helps her to unclutter her mind, she also uses the talent to encourage the pursuit of intimacy with God and a purpose-driven life.

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